I read recently that everyone can get dressed up but it is what we wear on our days off that is the most interesting. It has got me thinking, especially as you may already know I am not someone that saves any item of clothing for best. What I wear is fairly predictable. I like to wear maxi dresses or skirts with a jumper or jeans and a shirt. Although there really isn’t any skill behind this way of dressing, I do absolutely always feel my best in the clothes that I choose. I know what parts of my body need to be seen (Oh hi skinny ankles) and what parts I feel less confident about.
However my ‘dressed up’ days look exactly the same as my ‘day off’ days. So what does that say about me? That I am completely extra all the time? Or maybe that I have got to a stage with my wardrobe where I am just in love with all the pieces. No, I don’t have a capsule wardrobe, though I did try that once. Unfortunately I still buy clothes to lift my mood. However I do buy things that fit in with my ‘uniform’ and know they will be worn time and time again. I have, however stopped buying anything that I love on someone else and instead try to take another look at my Pinterest board to see what I am constantly drawn too.
The last few weeks have been such a treat with brighter weather and days where I didn’t have to wear a coat. (I always struggle with coats when I am wearing a skirt. I never feel that I get it quite right) Although I definitely have a very set style that I gravitate towards, if there is anything that does change in my wardrobe over the seasons, it has to be colour. I tend to have a neutral palette over the colder months and then try to add pops of colour when things warm up. I absolutely love how bright this pink jumper is from Very. Whenever I see people in bright colours I assume they are happy, confident people and I actually would like to be perceived in the same way. Wearing it lifts my mood the same way wearing a bright lip colour does.
‘Dress the way you want to feel, not how you actually feel to help enhance your mood’
I guess I will never know what people think when they look at the way I dress but my hopes are that I come across as someone who cares about their appearance. I really hope that I come across as someone who is comfortable in their own skin because most of the time I absolutely am. There is no arrogance in that. I know I am not the thinnest or the prettiest but I am not trying to be. The people I admire are the ones that are wearing fashion that seems super individual. It always comes back to confidence. I love seeing confidence in other people, they are the people I want to hang out with and hope that some of it rubs off on me too!
Are people subconsciously or even consciously dressing in a way that they hope creates a certain perception, I wonder?
Do we gravitate to similar dressers? Do we hunt down our fellow leopard print lovers and become friends? (No pun intended) I think we probably do. Finding people who might be like minded based on what they wear is something that I know I do. I think that is because I struggle to make new friends and clothing is a great conversation starter.
Ultimately I would love to find an outfit that says..
‘Be my friend, my sense of humour is dark but I have a kind heart… honestly’
– Do you think that might be dungarees?
*This post is part of my paid collaboration with Very.co.uk