I am not dropping any bombs here when I say that often people’s online presence is a manipulated one. I am no exception to that rule. Last week I had some personal problems and I sat in front of my phone trying to decide whether I should just be online and pretend like nothing was happening. I couldn’t do it, but I couldn’t work out why.
I dont tell the internet everything about me so why should it matter that I was present pretending everything was fine? I am guessing a mixture of feeling like representing an ‘always happy’ persona could be a damaging thing to do if there are vulnerable people viewing my content and also I am a very poor actor.
So I took a step back and the whole time I was kicking myself that I couldn’t just be professional. After all my job is to be present on social media. Did anyone really notice my absence? No. Did it damage my career? Not overly. I am obviously now about to start the algorithm battle as I have been off radar for a while.
The accounts that I would consider the most successful on Instagram are the ones that post consistently. After last week that made me realise these accounts were definitely showing me a dishonest persona. One that I had not only bought into but rightly or wrongly I had compared myself to. So are they wrong for doing that? Do large accounts on instagram have a responsibility to show that life isn’t perfect or should we all be adult enough to know that is the case anyway? I personally feel like it is the followers responsibility to edit who they follow and if someone isn’t making you feel good about yourself then you should feel comfortable removing that from your timeline.
I wish I had a way of concluding this post but I am so torn between instagram being snippets of peoples lives (real) and instagram being like magazines (curated). I am however going to think more careful about the accounts I do follow. I just want to view images that are inspiring and who have amazing people behind them too. (is that too much to ask)
I would love to know what you think about this. Should we be honest on social media or is it ok to create an image of ourselves instead?