Marriage Update – 2 Years Completed

I fear this may be another one of those posts where I stumble about and never get to the point.

Next week is our second wedding anniversary. Which I can hardly believe it has been two years already. I am very open about the fact I didn’t invest much emotion into my wedding day. It was a lovely day but I wasn’t overwhelmed with love and I wasn’t sobbing at the wonderful things people were saying. I guess I am just not moved by those things. They all seemed too forced to me. I am more likely to get teary over something small that I wasn’t expecting. Like a little ‘I’m so proud of you’ text out of the blue or when he offers to order Chinese food. (The offer is one he never expects me to actually agree to as he hates Chinese food but the willingness to sacrifice his happiness on such a massive level is always noted)

This year has been such a crazy one for us. My work commitments have grown massively and Si has started studying an MBA which means he has to dedicate around 15 hours a week to study. Before we got married I felt like we weren’t doing enough, weren’t being social enough and now I long for a day where we have absolutely nothing planned! (No sign of one for a while) This new lifestyle and being so busy has been such a blessing. We are getting on better than we ever have. Maybe its a new respect for how hard each of us are working, maybe its because the boys are a little older and we are not in that survival stage of bringing up very little demanding humans. I don’t really know.

What I do know is that it doesn’t feel like we have been together for 8 years. I mean having a 6 year is like a constant walking, talking (and some more talking) reminder of the time we have been together but it still seems like such a long time when you actually think about it.

We have decided that we aren’t going to buy each other gifts this year which I initially was fine with but I can’t help but think I will regret it if he is still encouraging the same idea when we hit some of the big numbers. I love him more than ‘cotton’ and ‘wood’ anniversaries but not more than diamonds. Who got to pick what you are meant to buy each year anyway! (After a little digging it seems to have originated from the Romans and has been commercialised in recent years, if your interested)

Si is a naturally really private person and as my blogging career has developed I know he has been out of his comfort zone. It is difficult to do what I do without including him in it but he has adjusted and started to understand why I love blogging so much. Which I am very thankful for.

There has been some talk about baby number three but it isn’t something that is on the cards yet (if ever) as our commitments are just too high at the moment to factor another little person into the mix. I have major reservations about the dynamics of three children too and I have always thought that having children can’t be one of those ‘suck it and see’ situations. I mean you can’t give them back once they are here!

For us, two years in things are better than ever. We have our roles and routines. We have been forced to support each other so heavily and hopefully I can speak for both of us when I say its just happy times at the moment. It feels a little cliche to say that, it comes from an honest place though. It hasn’t always been the smoothest of relationships which I have talked about here. So I think you can allow me this happy clap post.

Cara

 

 

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  1. August 31, 2017 / 2:22 pm

    We went for number 3 and have to say I’m so pleased we did, in fact I then began hoping for number 4 but hubby wasn’t so into that idea. When we had our 3rd the other 2 were seven and four and they loved it and were very helpful! I’m not painting it out to be perfect but going from one to two was much harder than two to three for me. I felt like we were a real tribe with 5 of us, silly really but they are now 21, 18 and 14 and apart from the teenage dramatics they are fab fun to be around. Happy 2nd year anniversary anyway you are a beautiful family x

    • Cara
      August 31, 2017 / 2:24 pm

      Thanks Amanda! I do the love the idea of three and it might be an option one day!

  2. Siobhan
    August 31, 2017 / 2:37 pm

    I’ve just read this post and the other one when times were a bit rocky. Love your honesty, I think sometimes we can let ourselves feel hard done by especially when you see how others are treated or how other peoples partners behave. In those moments we all need a dash of reality and someone will always have a horrendous story about something much worse to tell you that gives you a massive dose of perspective that we need every once in awhile 😊 Love your blog and insta page👌🏻

  3. Rachael
    August 31, 2017 / 3:35 pm

    I’m one of three and it works well – it means you can fall out with one and still have someone to talk to when you get bored by yourself! X

  4. August 31, 2017 / 4:08 pm

    So glad you guys are in a good place! People often don’t want to talk of the peaks and troughs of marriage and relationships and there really are quite a few in most marriages! We’re 9 years married next weekend and certainly had our share 😉

  5. September 1, 2017 / 7:35 am

    Thank you for sharing….it is so wonderful to see how you are all continuing to grow into a beautiful family and it’s fabulous you can be a support system to each other like that. P.s. having 3 children is incredible…there is 2.5 years between all of them and I wouldn’t change a thing xx

  6. September 5, 2017 / 1:08 pm

    Happy 2nd anniversary! I think I started following you on Instagram just before you got married which makes me think – where the hell has that time gone?!

    Well done to you both for pushing yourselves and doing what you love whilst supporting each other along the way. Marriage can be tough (I’ve only been married just over a year though so hardly an expert!) but I find that as things change in our lives and we learn new things together I sorta fall in love with my hubby that little bit more… Sounds major cheesy but I suppose it’s a mixture of being proud and happy!

    Loving the blog, as ever <3

    Melissa x

  7. September 9, 2017 / 11:20 pm

    Here’s to happy clapping for all the evers! Lovely post, congrats on two years xx

    • Cara
      September 12, 2017 / 6:14 pm

      Thank you!

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