There are some things that my husband and I are chalk and cheese over. Such as he adores skiing and I have a phobia of slopes. He believes hanging towels over banisters is a suitable place to leave them, whereas myself and anyone who isn’t living in university accommodation would disagree.
Its all fine though because where it matters we agree. Especially when it comes to parenting. My husband is definitely stricter than me and can sometimes forget how little they are, maybe expecting them to be more grown up than their years. Whereas I can be guilty of trying to keep them tiny. I hold my hands up and say I love the nights one of them crawls into bed with us. Although these days are so rare now.
I wanted to share the things that matter to us the most and what we hope will raise happy, confident children.
We have alway been very set with our routine. We rarely change it because the boys seem to have a mini melt down if we do. They eat at 4.30pm, bath by 5.30pm and are in bed by 6.30pm every night. (Give or take 30mins) This has been since birth, they have only ever missed a bath 2 or 3 times in their life. My two are just too sticky not to bath every day! This was really because Harbor responded so well to routine and then it just became habit. It means I eat my evening meal at 4.30pm though as I love to eat with the boys. (Poor Si eats alone at 7pm when he gets home. Yep he doesn’t really see the boys Mon-Fri)
There is definitely a balance between tiredness and giving your child as much opportunity as possible. Both our boys love to do clubs and we are keen for them to try as many different things as possible. (Money permitting) I just personally believe doing clubs will help them learn to socialise and to find out what it is they love doing and ultimately who they are. Currently the boys only do sport clubs but I’m hoping soon as Harbor gets older he might show an interest in music or art. I’m yet to see what Sonny might enjoy. To me the more hobbies that they have the less chance of them hanging around on street corners when they are older. My theory is they will be too busy to be in trouble. (Don’t tell me boys always make time for trouble because I’m happily living in denial)
I don’t know how everyone else feels about pets but I love the boys being brought up around dogs. Firstly it means we have to get loads of exercise as a family. I have harped on about how being outdoors improves my mental health before and I really believe it. Just watching them looking after and being respectful to the dogs is heart warming. It amazes me they are so gentle with the dogs but fight each other!
So thats it. I am narrowing down all (if any) of my parenting success down to Routine, Clubs and Dogs. Not the perfect book title and its an odd selection I know but honestly aside from love and time with my boys I do believe these are massive in making them well rounded individuals. I might revisit this post once they get a little older and see what remains important then.