Letter To My 6 Year Old

Yesterday I picked Harbor up from school and he said ‘Yep thats it. I think I’m done with being 5 Im ready to be 6’ and proudly stomped on his way home. Such a little statement but its left me smiling all night.

Happy birthday little man.

Im not naturally maternal and when you came into the world 6 years ago I just thought if I followed all the parenting rules then I would get it right, I would get you right. I wished that you would grow to have similar personality traits as me. I wanted you to be outrageously stubborn and unpredictably silly. I wanted you to love and hate things with equal measure, with passion but for the right reasons. I wanted you to unquestionably know what you believed in and stick by it.

I was so foolish because all the little snippets of personality that shine out of you are so much more incredible than any qualities I own. You are sensible and thoughtful. I sometimes feel so guilty about how grown up you can be. Always selflessly putting Sonny first and making sure he is ok and understands. You tolerate so much and often sacrifice your own enjoyment to encourage his.

You enjoy being still and quiet. Often choosing to colour and draw while your brother causes chaosΒ all around you. You tell me that I look beautiful every morning and wait for me to say it straight back. You can be so bossy repeating any instruction you’ve heard me say before. Correcting my English when I drop my ‘t’s.

You have said some memorable things this year. My favourite was the question ‘can grandads marry grandads?’. I love that you have started to understand the value of things and you know you cant have everything but you love what you have.

I’m not saying that you are perfect because lets face it you can argue black is white. You get emotional about the most peculiar things. (Who gets to open the gate being one massive melt down this week) but hand on heart I couldn’t be more proud of you. Just as you are.

You made me a mother and for that you will always have a special little part of me that no-one else has.

Love you.



  1. Charlotte Timney
    April 5, 2017 / 6:21 am

    Lovely words Cara. It’s such an honour being a mum πŸ’™ Happy birthday Harbour x

    • Charlotte
      April 5, 2017 / 8:03 am

      Harbor! Sorry little man x

      • Cara
        April 5, 2017 / 8:41 am

        Thank you, it absolutely is such an honour x

        • Charlotte Timney
          April 5, 2017 / 12:31 pm


  2. Suzi
    April 5, 2017 / 6:46 am

    Beautiful! That which gives us the greatest joy also makes the most vulnerable. Being a mum is the dogs equipment!
    Happy birthday to your boy
    Suzi x

    • Cara
      April 5, 2017 / 8:42 am

      Thank you

  3. Fran
    April 5, 2017 / 7:11 am

    This is beyond beautiful. Your frank commentary on parenthood is so refreshing. I don’t have and children yet but reading your blog makes me laugh and cry (mostly from the laughter) and I’m hoping parenthood will be much the same!

    • Cara
      April 5, 2017 / 8:42 am

      Aw thank you so much.

  4. Sarah R
    April 5, 2017 / 7:43 am

    Lovely words for a lovely boy from a lovely mummy x Happy Birthday Harbour and well done Cara for raising such a cutie x

    • Sarah R
      April 5, 2017 / 7:45 am

      Sorry ‘Happy Birthday Harbor!’ (Must get your name spelt right on your Birthday!!)

      • Cara
        April 5, 2017 / 8:43 am

        Thank you!

  5. Kirsty
    April 5, 2017 / 8:01 am

    This post really made me well up, such beautiful words x

    • Cara
      April 5, 2017 / 8:43 am

      Thank you x

  6. Kate
    April 5, 2017 / 8:03 am

    Beautiful post Cara. I made the mistake of reading this whilst sat in my car outside work. Now I have mascara and snot all over my face for the day ahead!! You should be so proud of your boys. Enjoy today xx

  7. Suzanne
    April 5, 2017 / 8:32 am

    Absolutely beautifully written. Straight from the heart. Happy Birthday dude x

  8. Holly
    April 5, 2017 / 8:41 am

    Beautiful! Happy birthday harbor πŸŽ‚ Have a wonderful day xx

  9. Alice
    April 5, 2017 / 8:45 am

    Beautifully written, made me well up πŸ™ˆ Happy Birtday Habor!

  10. Holly
    April 5, 2017 / 10:31 am

    A mother’s love – there really is nothing quite like it. Unexplainable, indescrible, all consuming and sometimes maddening in equal measure. Beautiful words about your children as always cara. Your words come to life the most when you write about your boys!
    Enjoy this special day x

  11. Natali in Norfolk
    April 5, 2017 / 2:20 pm

    Oh my god what a beautiful piece of writing!!!!

  12. kelly
    April 5, 2017 / 6:44 pm

    Happy Birthday to Harbor, 6 always seems a lot older than 5. My daughter is 7 this year. And my son, will turn 3 at the end of this month is a lot like your youngest. x

  13. Kirsty
    April 5, 2017 / 7:02 pm

    Cara this is so beautiful. I have four little ones from seven down to two, two of them with birthdays in the next couple of weeks, and you’ve inspired me to write a birthday letter to each of them annually from now on. Not to read now but sometime when they are older, to tell them just how much I love them and how very proud I am of each of them which is exactly what you’ve conveyed in your letter.

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