When I started having social media (and I’m mainly talking about Instagram here) I didn’t expect my following to grow. This has never been my goal. Yes its really flattering and amazing to have support in larger numbers. If I ask a question about anything you guys hook me up with all kinds of suggestions! (the people who say there is no instruction book for parenting obviously never asked about potty training on Instagram!) I don’t try to gain followers. I barely use hashtags or follow any of the rules about having a theme or one subject. I just share what I want when I want because ultimately my social media is for me and about me. One day its all about my boys, the next my hair. I think that my Instagram account along with my blog has their finger in many pies and I’m ok with that.
I really like that I’m honest. Its my favourite quality about myself. I like that I have an opinion and feel confident to share it. Recently I have started to think about whether I share too much on social media. Im happy to tell you about my stretch marks, my cellulite, the fact that I sometimes shout at my children and then fail to fall asleep at night because I feel so guilty about it.
There isn’t really anything that I hold back on. I wouldn’t shout about where my children go to school but if someone was sinister enough to want to find out it wouldn’t be hard to do so. So when you see my pictures and read my captions they are just me. Raw and unedited (but obviously taken in the best light) Do I share too much?
Mulberry similar here
Shoes Air And Grace
Coat New Look
If I do then I doubt I can ever change. Im not interested in talking about what people had for breakfast. I want to talk about that argument they had with a friend, or that argument I had with my husband. I like that stuff. The behind closed doors things, because THATS the fabric that makes us who we are. I wanna know who you are when you’ve taken your bra and make up off. The nitty gritty. Then I’ll know if we can be friends. Don’t get me wrong I have non sharer friends. My husband is a non sharer. Im an admirer of these people who know when to shut up. So demure and chic. Lets be honest though they’re not as much fun. Right?
What are the downsides of sharing too much? That people might not like me? Its always better to be liked for who you are than who you are not. I worry a lot about whether I’m liked, I always worry after seeing people whether I talked too much about myself or did they take my joke the wrong way. I would really benefit from a disclaimer t-shirt. ‘Don’t take offence I’m just a sarcastic bitch’. The trouble is when you get to my age, with a few kids slung under your belt its not easy to change. Maybe when my boys are older and bringing their friends round it might be time to cut back on the over sharing. ‘No friends sleeping over tonight. Mummy is on her period and feeling very stabby’.
Photography by Katrina