January you have a lot to answer for. So much emphasis on changing who we are and setting ourselves goals that ultimately means we experience a rollercoaster of emotions. I do need to lose weight, I do need to cut back on caffeine and I definitely need to improve my fitness but I haven’t set myself any of these goals this year because the low I experience from ‘failing’ just isn’t worth it for me.

Where I am setting myself goals are more to do with my personality. I am very proud of the changes I have made to my mindset in the last 10 years. If I could go back and talk to myself I would. I have always been closed and actually fairly bitchy. I am being more honest with myself now. If I think something horrible about someone I stop myself and think about why I feel that way. If its because I feel jealous or threatened then I give myself a swift talking to. There is room for everyone and just because someone else is beautiful doesn’t mean I am not. If however they are just a total dick then I allow myself to carry on thinking that way. I am not too faced though, if I have put you in the ‘dick’ box then I just tend to shut you out. Negative people will just drain on your happiness and it isn’t worth it.


Sonny turns three this weekend and even though last January I said I wouldn’t make the same mistake this year I absolutely have. Christmas got in the way and I haven’t planned anything for his birthday. I now have a few frantic days to buy presents and cake. I know that on Saturday I am going to feel those all to familiar pulls on my heart. He isn’t small anymore. If we don’t have anymore children have I savoured each memory enough?

January is such a dark month and I do really suffer from winter tiredness. I am hoping to fight it this year with some simple steps.

  1. Vitamin D supplements. Most of our intake comes from the sun (along with oily fish) during these darker months its so hard to achieve our recommended daily intake so a supplement is a super clever idea.
  2. Spending time outdoors during the limited daylight that we do have. Even if its just to walk the dogs. I always say it but being outdoors is the answer for everything mood related!
  3. Get enough sleep. I don’t look at my phone after 10pm. Otherwise my mind will never shut off!


A few snaps from our dog walk earlier in the week.

I hope I’m not treating January unfairly but I always approach this month with caution! Don’t let all those new year new you resolutions leave you feeling like a failure!



  1. January 2, 2017 / 9:44 pm

    I’ve sat staring at a blank page with the title resolutions since Sunday morning…..I know the obvious ones but finding a way to stay positive is my ultimate goal!

    • Cara
      January 2, 2017 / 9:47 pm

      I honestly just don’t feel committed to all the obvious ones. These chunky jumpers are letting me get away with murder!

  2. January 2, 2017 / 10:00 pm

    You talk about negative people steeling your happiness. Have you read the book ‘have you filled your bucket today?’ I think it’s a kids book but my yoga teacher who is into mindfulness recommended it to us as it’s about being happy yourself but also noticing when people steal your happiness and how you can help to fill otherpeoples ‘bucket of happiness’
    P.s. Love keeping up to date with your blog and Instagram, helping me sort myself out ready for a new year!

    • Cara
      January 2, 2017 / 10:02 pm

      I haven’t heard of it but I will definitely check it out! Thank you for the recommendation x

    • Cara
      January 2, 2017 / 10:02 pm

      I haven’t heard of it but will definitely check it out! Thank you for the recommendation 😘

  3. Emily
    January 6, 2017 / 3:45 pm

    Love the honesty. Time is precious, why waste it on people who are dicks? Good for you! Xx

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