I haven’t blogged all week as it has been half term and that has zapped all the creative energy from me. Today Harbor is back at school and Sonny is back having a rest so it has given me chance to have a little catch up.
It’s been quite an emotional week. Firstly I made the decision that I wouldn’t write for Rock My Family anymore after receiving some more negativity on one of my posts. I spent far too much of my time feeling upset and anxious that I just thought it wasn’t right for me anymore. So now the focus is solely on my own blog and it feels great. For some reason the followers on RMF didn’t really understand me.
So this half term I talked Si into having the week off with us. I always fantasise about half term week being such an adventure and full of fun but I have learnt now that it becomes very difficult to keep children entertained when you are one parent. So he was roped in.
Day one and Si had arranged to play golf all morning. Apparently this was agreed however there was no evidence on the calendar so I was fucking furious. Still I managed to cram two parks trips, shopping and getting my nails done into day one and then walked round like an absolute boss. (Always so cocky on day one of half term)
As payback Day two was ALL about finding the perfect pumpkins and we went to Over Farm to get them. They had a Spook Fest on too so there were tractor rides and shows for the kids!
I found these perfect blue pumpkins and I’m so sad that I now have to throw them away.
I had planned for us to go to Chessington on the Wednesday but the car had to go into the garage so we had a day painting leaf pictures, painting polystyrene skulls from Hobbycraft and carving pumpkins. It was actually nice to stay indoors all four of us.
The last two days were fairly standard half term activities. We went to see the Secret Life Of Pets at the cinema, went to buy carpet for the lounge and went to soft play.
All in all a very normal week. The clocks went back and the boys went to bed early so I settled down to chill out with Netflix. At 10pm Sonny started coughing really badly so I went in to check on him and he was hardly breathing. Struggling for air. We rang for an ambulance which arrived in minutes. I have never been in a situation like this before (apart from calling an ambulance for Si when he staged some sort of heart attack. We found out it wasn’t after he had a double dose of morphine and was as high as a kite) It was terrifying and I felt so helpless. The paramedics were fantastic and made me feel like it was going to be absolutely fine. That was until I was in the ambulance and they called it in to Intensive care and used words like ‘Severe’. I panicked and started sweating. I got so dizzy that once we arrived they had to lie me down in the ambulance for a few minutes to calm me down. By this point Sonny had seemed to make a full recovery.
They had given him adrenaline which meant he had to stay in hospital for another four hours to be monitored. Si and I were absolutely shattered. Being a diva and nearly fainting is tiring work! Sonny was just so adorable to the doctors. It was so heart warming to see my polite little boy even when he was being prodded and poked into the early hours. It turns out he has a bad case of Croup. He’s still under the weather but doing so much better now.
And yes he is back to terrorising his older brother.
It’s crazy how life works, what a whirlwind week for you all. I think you made the right choice with RMF, you are so funny and light hearted when it comes to parenting and should never apologise for that. I genuinely laugh out loud at your posts sometimes. You have to do what feels right and as you say they were just not part of your ‘home team’. Keep doing what your doing. Fab pics too x
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Thank you! 😘
Sounded like an awesome half term week, so glad Sonny is back on the mend. If RMF wasn’t working and they couldn’t appreciate your style of writing, let them be the ones that miss out. I love your honesty and approach to parenting there needs to be more Cara’s out there!!! X
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Aw thank you so much!
Hey Cara, we your followers all get you! I love both your IG posts, insta stories and look forward to the honest, real life blog posts! Keep doing what you do xxx
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Mwah! Thank you 😊
Great decision to go your own way, I love your honesty too, you have to stay true to you. Keep doing what you are doing, that’s what makes you authentic, it’s lovely to read x
Ah no, I’m so sorry you had such negativity on RMF, I actually found you through RMF and have been loving following you and your gorgeous family on IG (in a totally non-creepy way!) Your half term looked lovely- barring the ambulance trip and hospital stay- great idea to have your husband take the week off, we only have a one year old but my husband feels like he misses out on all the fun while he’s at work.
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Aw thank you! I loved writing for them but I just wasn’t received well! It’s a real shame x
I only found your blog a few weeks ago amid the first RMF fallout. I initially came over to see what all the fuss was about and actually found a much more homely place to reside in. I can relate to your posts so much more. And I absolutely hate mummy/baby groups, I’ve been to one this morning and would have thrown myself on the floor and cried had it not been covered in play dough and crumbs. Good for you for staying true to yourself.
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No one needs to feel crap about themselves if they don’t need to, well done for cutting that out of your life and staying true to yourself! I personally really like your blog and IG, it’s refreshing to see another mum with real honestly about what she gets up to 🙂
I discovered you through RMF and fell a little bit in love. With your life, your family and that beautiful basset 🙂 I also still visit and enjoy RMF and am a big believer that there is room for everyone in this world (just maybe not all in the same room!). It is disappointing that there are people out there who feel the need to pass judgement on others so quickly. Aren’t we all just trying to get by one day at a time. Anyway, I just wanted to say keep being you and thank you for bringing another level of humour into my life each week. Mwah x
Exactly the same here Charlotte!
To echo everyone else’s comments, best to cut all the unnecessary negativity out of your life. In my mind blogging is about opening yourself up and sharing funny stories and experiences, that doesn’t mean encouraging judgement and negativity. Who needs that. I never read RMF, well because quite frankly I don’t have one (yet!) but it doesn’t sound like it’d be for me anyway. Independent bloggers and IG is my preference, with your humourous, heartfelt posts being my absolute fav.
Block out the negativity, follow your head heart and gut and do what’s right and positive for you and your family only, nothing else is that important xx