I have never done any sort of introductory post before. I wrote this post for Rock My Family and thought it might be nice to share with you all.
My name is Cara and I live just outside of Cheltenham. I feel very lucky to live just on the doorstep of some very beautiful Cotswold towns and they have nearly all been explored by our muddy wellies at some point or another.
We are a family with two boys (Harbor 5 and Sonny 2) though I do sometimes wonder how different our family might have been. You see my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. It was an unplanned pregnancy and after we had rather sheepishly told everyone our shocking news, I then found out ( at my 12 week scan) that we had lost our baby. I felt so embarrassed to then have to tell everyone what had happened.
Luckily we then went on to have a very healthy pregnancy, although I worried for the worst the entire time. Harbor gave me an easy ride. I had no morning sickness and I absolutely knew from the word go I was carrying a boy.
I went two weeks past my due date with Harbor and was booked in to be induced after we had a difficult weekend with reduced movement. But the night before my induction my labour started. Sparing you the details, a 24hr labour resulted in an emergency C-section as Harbor was being starved of Oxygen. I had to be put to sleep and struggled to come round afterwards. So waking up and being given a baby was so surreal.
After a few years we were ready for baby number two and again I suffered another miscarriage within the first trimester. Which this time I didn’t share with anyone other than my husband. I guess I was trying to save everyone the heart ache and to hopefully not put any more pressure on us to have a healthy pregnancy.
My fourth pregnancy was with Sonny, although it was pretty easy I did suffer with ALOT of pelvis pain. At one point my midwife thought I was in labour from all the complaining I was doing! I elected for a C-section with Sonny, initially the consultant was reluctant but then when she saw the difficulties with Harbor she agreed.
Obviously I hoped that an elective Caesarean would mean a much less traumatic experience but unfortunately the anesthetist gave me the incorrect doseage and I couldn’t feel my face. I was struggling to breathe and my blood pressure couldn’t be stabilised. I then went on to hemorrhage and they were discussing whether I should return to theatre and the possibility of needing a hysterectomy.
I feel that there are far too many people that have suffered with difficult births. I personally try to make light of situations. To laugh and not cry and that is my coping mechanism. I do come across as very sarcastic. Even my five year old has mastered sarcasm much to my dismay!
I wanted to share how our family came about, obviously missing out the bow chicca wow wow bits, because I personally think these experiences affect how you parent and what choices you make.