My week

My week

If you follow me on Instagram you may have noticed I’ve had something of a rocky week. I write a guest blog post for a family blog and this weeks post received some negative comments.

I guess I just expected people to understand my sense of humour and was very surprised when some people took offence.

Obviously I am used to receiving negative comments, which is a sad statement to have to make. However I just hadn’t before received them in such a force.

I absolutely know that I have a marmite personality and actually in real life I am even more head strong about what I like and don’t than on my social media. What lies beneath it all is the need to be liked.

I admire these people that genuinely don’t care what people think of them. I have been struggling with the fact people think I’m not a nice person. Along with the fact people have gone out of there way to attack me (I have received emails and direct messages on Instagram) – a behaviour that I simply don’t understand.

On the flip side I have had a massive out pouring of support. Some of the loveliest messages. It’s such a shame that one negative does so much more damage than twenty positive can heal.

Don’t worry I have definitely had a word with myself and won’t be getting too hung up on what has happened this week. It has had a huge impact (and some tears) but it’s not real life. These people don’t know me and I very much doubt we’d get on.

Just a little note, there isn’t any point writing nasty things on my blog or Instagram as I’ll just delete them. I’ve got no time for it. Constructive feedback is what I’m all about.

Everything I do, I do for my children. So my focus the last few days has been enjoying the simplest pleasures with these two before school starts and steals away our time as three.

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11 Comments

  1. Deb
    August 31, 2016 / 8:20 am

    I read that blog post plus all the comments. I laughed at most of it and took it in the way it was intended. I follow you on insta and regularly howl at your humour because it’s my kind of thing. My husband and I are very sarcastic and constantly poke fun at each other. As a result my friends I choose to spend time with are the same and our kids are too. I know in the past I may have upset people as some people don’t like it and never will but in real life those peeps drift away if they don’t enjoy it. Unfortunately, when you put anything on social media every fecker has an opinion and feels it’s their right to share. I could rip the piss on FB on a regular basis but I always chose to be kind as I think it’s very weak to attack someone over the keyboard. The shitty comments you received shows more about how they are as a person than about you. I would feel hurt exactly like you do as it feels unjust and downright mean but please DONT.
    The bloggers/insta accounts that have perfect adorable littles, with family coordinated outfits I don’t chose to follow because I find it knobbish and unreal but I don’t leave hateful comments. Live & let live there’s room for all.
    Sorry for the huge ramble but I can imagine how crap you feel and I don’t think you should. Xx

    • August 31, 2016 / 8:42 am

      Thank you. I have found it so hurtful and it made me question how I parent and whether social media is worth it. Taking the ‘you can’t win them all’ approach moving forward!

  2. August 31, 2016 / 9:41 am

    HERE HERE.. Well done for this post too Cara. I read the post and all the associated comments and still can’t quite believe the need people have to make such negative and hurtful remarks. The post was so obviously written in the harmlessly humorous style that you are loved and followed for by the thousands of Insta admirers you have. Keep up the great work and enjoy the rest of the hols with your gorgeous boys. xxx

  3. September 1, 2016 / 9:55 am

    I read your post and found your perspective really interesting and refreshing Cara. It really sucks that some people felt the need to comment in the way they did and it’s totally understandable that it would upset you. I struggle hugely with the fear that people don’t think I’m a nice person and it means a lot to hear that I’m not alone in this. We are expected to be nice above all else (especially as women) and at the end of the day, who doesn’t want to be a nice person. I think it gets you really deep when you feel that others don’t perceive you in this way. I secretly think that behind the strong personalities of those who aren’t always seen as ‘nice’ beat the hearts of some of the most sensitive souls. Thank you for making me feel less alone on this Thursday morning and in the darker moments do remember that the smiles you create with your writing are worth so much more than the pettyness of the people who are negative xx

    • September 4, 2016 / 7:48 pm

      Thank you!

  4. September 1, 2016 / 11:38 am

    Hi Cara!

    I’ve recently started following you on Insta and enjoy your honest parenting posts on RMF. It annoys me that mums have to be pigeon holed into a category. Everyone is different and everyone parents differently. I read this post from a blog the other day and it got me thinking about you.
    So i thought i’d share it with you 🙂 Take care and keep being you. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/whitney-lloyd/im-the-facebook-mom-everyone-loves-to-hate_b_11181868.html

  5. September 1, 2016 / 7:43 pm

    As a newbie follower of yours, I totally wouldn’t worry. Life is incredibly short, everybody is different and other people should respect that before commenting. Keep smiling. Look forward to meeting you at the launch event! fix

    • September 4, 2016 / 9:38 am

      Oh exciting! I hardly know who is going! I’m just in it for the goodie bag 😜

  6. Lindsey Bush
    September 1, 2016 / 11:07 pm

    Cara I have discovered your wonderful blog from that RMF post and comments section and I’m sure I’m not the only one. I have since read loads of your blog and really enjoyed it. Please don’t waste your energy on those negative comments, people can be so caught up in their own insecurities that they perceive someone else’s perspective as a personal attack, which your post definitely wasn’t. It’s a real shame women and mother’s can’t be more supportive of each other. For what it’s worth, I think your blog strikes a perfect balance of being visually inspiring / interesting but also honest about your life and experiences. I think this is a hard thing to get right in the mummy blogging world and I am so thankful I found you x

    • September 1, 2016 / 11:08 pm

      Thank you! This is so lovely to hear! I had a low week but I’m bouncing back 💪🏻

  7. October 1, 2016 / 9:16 pm

    Hey Cara, I’m a bit late to the party here but I did read your post on RMF. I actually didn’t ‘get’ your sarcasm at first but I’m blaming baby brain for that. I now have your insta posts set on notifications – a prized position to hold. Hah. I think you’re a gorgeous girl and v funny. You seem like a lovely mum. Good work! I’ve a 4 month old and am finding myself a bit isolated as the mum groups are a bit cringe and I haven’t clicked hugely with my NCT group. Oh well. Feeling connected on Insta instead! I’m on @aimeeblaise. X

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