I have always been described as having a very spikey personality. I find it hard to not say what I think and being diplomatic is a skill I’ve really had to work at learning.
This is why I sometimes struggle with social media. More and more frequently I receive negative comments. Don’t get me wrong they are massively outweighed by the positive ones but they are there and they stick with me.
There really only seems to be one way to deal with these comments and that’s to ignore it. This goes against every beat of my heart, every cell in my body and every chuckle in my belly. I literally find myself grinding my teeth.
By replying you are entering an arguement you can never win. These comment creeps aren’t here to discuss your ‘shit lipstick’ they just want you to feel stupid then they can move on to upsetting someone else.
I am the first to admit I bitch. There are some Whatsapp groups on my phone that conversation only sparks up when
– ‘look what she’s wearing today’
– ‘honestly she has passed looking tanned and now looks like she’s rolled in doritos’
statements need addressing.
There is always a line. Who are these people and what do they want to achieve by telling someone they don’t like something about them.
What doesn’t help is I lack the ‘no fucks given’ gene and when someone says something horrible I normally either want to delete my Instagram account and pack up the family to live on a farm far from wifi signal or I want to start a raging arguement. ‘You don’t like the way I raise my kids?!? Have you fucking seen your eyebrows?’
I have managed to never reply. But you should know that while in the shower I totally kicked your arse in a virtual arguement. Honestly I was witty and hilarious and you had no comeback.